Why is it that as soon as you get pregnant and have a baby it’s quite alright to talk about size and weight? Everyone has an opinion – your bump is too small, too big, too high, too low… has anyone ever said to someone your bump looks perfect? Probably not because we don’t really have any clue what it is meant to look like. It’s meant to be how it is. Perfect, for you.
And then baby comes along. And it starts all over again.
It’s a small baby, big baby, yada yada. I know it’s a conversational thing but why is everyone so obsessed with size? Everyone is keen to put a baby into ‘small’ or ‘big’ category. I’ve never heard someone say, “Your baby looks just right,”. Why do we need to comment on the size of someone else’s baby anyway!? We don’t walk into our place of work and start passing our judgement on who looks small or big. So why is it ok at baby groups?
Here’s a funny thing, every single person on this planet is a different build and size. It’s not just babies. Hey, even men, puppies, kittens, bears… you name it there aren’t that many totally identical beings on the planet. (I’m not very clued up on animal stuff so if there is, apologies) So why on earth all babies should fit into this ‘baby mould’ that seems to exist in people’s minds, blows my mind.
There’s enough things to worry about with this parenting malarkey so don’t plant seeds of worry that aren’t even an issue into someone else’s head, let alone someone you’ve literally just met.
I hear it a lot, in case you hadn’t guessed. How old is he? Oh, he’s small. Cue concerned smile on face. What do you want me to do, sprinkle him in miracle grow?
Babies don’t work like that as far as I’m aware. Why not look at him and see the gorgeous huge blue eyes, beaming smile as he takes the world in around him and his super speedy crawling skills. He’s clearly fed, very active and a perfectly happy baby.
So please, strangers I’ve never met before, stop telling me my baby’s small.
He’s absolutely, 100% blinking perfectly, perfect.